Sunday, November 30, 2014

About that 'struggle' tail and Devante's foolishness at the 2014 Soul Train Music Awards

By Tenisha Mercer

As a teenager in the 90s who bumped Jodeci on my stereo (remember those?) on the regular, I could not wait to see the Jodeci reunion on the Soul Train Music Awards. I was ready to get my 90s life. I was watching. And then this right here happened ...

I turned my head to the side: What is that sticking out of his head? Is that a hair pouf?

'Struggle' tail??

Lawd. First, where and the hell has Devante been? He was my favorite, and I had the biggest crush on him. And why, Lawd, why, did he have to return rocking this side mop of a curlytail on his 40+year old head?

I just CANNOT. 


Really, I can't figure out what I am mad about most  -- the alleged lip synced performance from the best-selling R&B group in the 90s or that Devante thought it was cool for this side bob of a ponytail (that face tat don't help, Devante) to ever see the light of day; I think the pony wins.

Bless his heart.

I need to see the stylist who approved this ish. Fire they ass.  Because I really can't figure out who thought this side S-curly ponytail --  held together with a ponytail holder that's bigger than the ponytail itself -- would EVA be a good idea.

And a slicked down ponytail at that? We all remember from the 90s that Devante had fine hair, but for real? Was he trying to prove something here -- cause a whole lot of chicks (we all rocked perms in the 90s) are wishing that their hair could lay down so straight, like this, right now, today, with that fresh touch up look. And you know I'm not kidding.

Really, I could not focus on them performing, "Wanna Freak You," and a compilation of their hits with this ponytail foolishness. Somewhere, I think this is K-Ci and JoJo's payback for some failed reunion concert Devante didn't attend. Or maybe it was that horrible display of drunkenness and the impromptu concert at a Subway back in 2010. Or maybe it's because he didn't appear in KC and Jo -Jo's reality show a few years back.

And what about Dalvin? Good bruhs don't let their bruhs go out like this.  I just sat there and shook my head. My 90s moment was down the drain, because folks didn't talk about the performance (mostly) but about Devante's hair.

Brown gel kit  

Did the stylist slick this down with some Ampro brown gel, a bristle brush, some water and a scarf or a doo rag to lay them edges down? Cause you just don't get these types of side ponies without a little bit of work, you see.

Somebody, somewhere, took enough time to tame that unibrow of Devante's, I see, with arched and groomed manbrows. I demand to know who gave the green light that let this three inches of ponytail laid to the side, slide. Who would ever think that, the same ponytail, afro puff, curly puff, curly pouf, struggletail, whatever you want to call it, that a two-year old girl wears, would EVER look good on a grown ass man?

I'm sure Don Cornelius, rest his soul, is ready to climb out of the grave and SNATCH this struggletail right out of Devante's head. Black Twitter is straight CLOWNING this hairstyle; the memes have just begun.

Is this the new ponytail over, AKA comb over, with just three inches of hair?

Here's a word of advice: Don't, just don't do this. Ever again. Please. Or Black Twitter is coming for you.

Monday, November 24, 2014

On vacay in the Bahamas

Spent almost a week luxuriating on a cruise in the Bahamas for my 40th birthday. And I had not one natural hair worry in the world. I had my hair pressed about a  month ago and was too damn lazy to do anything to it. Plus it rained in Nassau, and I was in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean.

So I wore a fedora and a top knot. And that was that!

On the cruise deck

A fedora solves most hair anything

Jamaican graffiti

Nassau was lovely, just rainy and "cold" by Bahamian standards

At the beach in Freeport 

Fashions at American Music Awards

Remember when the American Music Awards were .... about music, and not just who was on top of the charts and which crazy antics could be pulled off in the span of a few televised hours? I certainly do and, despite my general disdain for music shows of most kinds (blame my age), here's one of my favorite parts - what celebs wore, and my fave looks:

Garcelle Beauvais slays
Like Nikki's toned down look

I love the simple, minimal look on Tracee Ellis Ross.

Monday, November 17, 2014

This is how you get married and slay the game

By Tenisha Mercer

We all know Solange IS a fashion icon. But she wed her longtime boyfriend Alan Ferguson over the weekend and killed the wedding game. 

From her amazing fro and caped winter white wedding dress with gold cuffs, to Mama Tina in her figure-flatting long white dress, to her entire wedding party decked out in white, to Blue froed out like her auntie ... fans myself. I just can't take it no mo'. Heart be still. Too much fierceness.

She's married now, and happy wishes to the couple! 

Here are the pics. Drool and swoon.

Kilt it

Say nothing else

Love. the. jumpsuit.

Blue froed out

Thursday, November 13, 2014

Blue wears an updo

By Tenisha Mercer

Jay Z and Blue Ivy stepped out with adorable Blue wearing her hair in a cute topknot.

She looks adorable with her hair up or free curls.

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Are you pressured to straighten your natural hair?

By Tenisha Mercer

Most naturals have heard it constantly:

"When are you going to straighten it?"
"I bet it will be so long when you straighten it."
"How long are you going to wear it like 'that'?"
"How does it look straightened?"

This article on asks the question many naturals hear way too often.

Have you felt pressured to straighten your natural hair?

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Don't you just love this?

I love this vintage-y picture with these little girls rocking their natural hair, cute little kid dresses (read: not grown woman attire disguised for little girls) and the saddle shoes and bobby socks. I just love that we are, fingers crossed, finally at a point where little girls can grow up to love and appreciate the natural hair that comes from their heads.